And so, in the end it was DISMISSED! All of it. I just haven't had the 50 bucks a charge to get the arrest record expunged. It's zip 44444 in Ohio for anyone who has been privately given my name or been invited to a site where they could see my name, to look it up. I am not giving my name here. Check it out. The sociopath I have been writing about knows all this and how it hurt me, and he knew all about it when he married me. The best way to turn things around on a liar is with their own words, so, I also taped my sociopath.
That experience taught me a lot, about injustice, the value of our rights and freedoms, the sometimes huge egos of prosecutors and their unwillingness to admit when they were duped. And about how they are protected by law to do so! Having been actually falsely accused, I would never falsely accuse someone. Everyone who knows me knows I am unyielding when it comes to that. I consider it one of my strongest areas morally.
I have worked in group homes for the MR population in recent years and last year I worked in an assisted living home for seniors. The county I worked in requires a background check that is more than asking the local police department to fill out a form. I had an FBI background check in January 08. Clean, clean clean. I am not proud I was involved in such a mess. I started participating in online political discussion to vent my disgust over it. I have empathy for people caught up in the plea mill I would not have had otherwise. As I said, the night they wouldn't let me leave I had an e-mail from the guy inviting me there. One cop, the one I call the good cop, looked at it and said that it was verifiable. The other cop, the one I call the guy with the chip on his shoulder said he didn't care about "any internet anything." They separated us and this white, middle-aged, raised in the burbs American wasn't used to being told to shut up when voicing my opinion about injustice. I heard his lying nutcase woman, who at that time was his fiancee, lying like a rug and I said in a loud voice, "She's lying!" I was ordered to shut-up by chip in his shoulder. Some time passed and I knew the longer they spun their tale the worse it was for me, and again I called out, "She's lying!" I was cuffed, humiliated and against every bit of advice I had ever heard to remain silent, I sat in the holding cell crying and writing out a three page statement that actually got me released on my own recognizance and the sympathy of the prosecutor, FINALLY!
The victim's advocate, who at that time was the director of legal advocacy at that county's battered women's shelter, was my advocate from the get-go. I even have a crappy public defender story, because his deal left me vulnerable to more false charges and blackmail. He identified me as the real victim at the very first of it and was a nice man. He hooked me up with the victim's advocate. His work though, was what led to them being able to wrangle me some more. My $3,000.00 attorney is some of the best money I have spent in my life. I worked with the MR population then and anyone who has done that knows that sometimes you have to clean up poop. I used to say, when it was all fresh, that lawyer cost me the cleaning up of a lot of poop.
I know the value of truth and freedom and anyone who would EVER think this proud American would falsely accuse anyone of a crime is barking up the wrong tree, as they say. No way. I am slow to judge other people, perhaps to a fault, always looking for the ob
This is not the first time I have shared this online. I used to manage a big political discussion board with over 900 members. I first told it there, publicly, in the safety of my very own public group. I am happy to say I feel safe discussing this here on EP. It is the sort of environment I strove for on a dog eat dog politics group, believe it or not. Very cool thing about this place, the safety aspect. I have experienced public humiliation in years past on the web service my political discussion board was on. Like a politician or a celebrity with skeletons, I learned to deal with it, but, I did circulate the police report from my county where the cops were standing in my kitchen with him, while he admitted to seeing me while trying to call me a stalker.
Life Lesson: There are people in this world who lie. They lie to get what they need or want and they do not care if the consequences might be that someone could lose something as precious and basic as their freedom. That is wrong. It is morally reprehensible. Is it sociopathic? If a person with an anti-social personality is doing it, yes, it can be an observable behavior among others. Some people are just mean, hateful and selfish. I have written about a sociopath who took everything from me on another story. I have come to grips with what my being involved in those two situations says about me. After this incident, I avoided anything resembling it. Any appearance that the two situations are similar is surface. The last man, who I married and I, were in an intense relationship, as intense as he is, which is pretty intense. He was a master manipulator where the man in this situation is a bumbling fool. I thank him for that. I moved from that area in October 08 and right up until the very end, the man kept coming over to my house hoping to hook up. I declined repeatedly, sometimes by running upstairs and flinging open the hall window on the driveway side and yelling that I wasn't dressed and couldn't come downstairs. He never stopped coming though and the sociopath/former husband who tries to use this skeleton in my closet in his own defense saw the man pull in and drive around the circle one day in March 2008. He left without stopping to visit. My husband waved at him. He didn't wave back.
I talked to the man I was "stalking" last week. Did I tape him? You bet.
Note: I was given custody of a child by a GAL while the charges were pending in this case because I fought to rescue the child from parents surrounded by people on drugs. I am a good and upstanding person. It was INSANE I was treated that way, just as it was insane that I was abused severely by a sociopath and he was not charged. Sometimes, justice seems to be just an abstract term. I realize that the truth is actually sometimes in the middle, but there is ALWAYS an ob